Miley Cyrus, A Male Perspective (May not be suitable for all audiences)

I want to start by saying that I am feeling compelled to write this because I am a man that choses to try to respect women. I do see women that I do respect such as my wife, but when someone like Miley goes on stage and does what she did I realized I actually have many viewpoints. I know miley is not the first to do something like this but she is the latest on the buzz... So to lets begin...

If I were a cave man...

I would probably just bash Miley on the head and have my way with her and ditch her somewhere. I would not view her as someone who would be living a responsible life towards having a family. In fact I either see her as a cheat or would be more concerned that she'd willingly not need to be bashed on the head and allow every man to have their way with her.

If I were still a young boy/teen possibly even college student...I have a few perspectives here actually. 

On one hand, I just got to see some free soft-core porn. As a kid probably exploring my sexuality and if I had very little other guidance, I would be looking for a "relationship" to have some fun with some girls. Heck I had erections from when I was maybe 5-6 years old and I had no clue about it. What more when you see shit like Miley on stage at a young age and have crappy parental guidance. I sure as hell would have a hard time seeing women past their bodies and probably being insulting to those who have nothing to show. I mean if this is where women are going with freedom, I would be all for it. In fact give her more freedom so I can see here on a free porn site and use her image as a means to get off. I'd be willing to say damn yes you are smart, intelligent and have your rights when actually in my head i'm thinking this girl is stupid I'm gonna get some soon. I would probably also think I could get away with that because hell I would be cheering on other girls and even hearing girls saying "yeah you go girl!" to one another. What the hell would I care if you have a mind, heart or soul? I just got to have SEX. To sum it up, some men today are respectfully disrespecting women by telling them it's their right and the girls are buying into this crap believing it's part of defining freedom.

On the other hand, I have been raised with parents that have a great relationship and respect for one another and have respect for my mother, sister and many other women I have met. I am ashamed to even think that I could be so dirty with my thoughts. I have had what I thought were beautiful relationships as a teen and college only to have some guy use the "freedom" or "experience more of the world" line on my moron of ex-girlfriends. I hear idiots saying how it's just human nature. Being young I was already having a hard time thinking I'd ever have a respectable relationship and I know a lot of men who think the same way. To some girls, I only would seem like the jealous, controlling type. I am actually ashamed to know that some other guys think as I described in the above paragraph. I was sure there was someone out there of the opposite sex who still viewed things the same way though. As for my ex-girlfriends, some of them were hurt others went about it like it was their right, either way I said it really was their choice and I would not allow that disrespect to be part of my life.

As a friend to many girls while growing up... All I need to say is how sorry I am to those who were taken advantage of and wish I could have been there for. Sorry to those who are equally betrayed by disrespectful men who preyed on your desires for a respectful relationship but were just playing you. I feel sorry that people in this world have leaned towards thinking about themselves, that even just having sex is "survival of the fittest." As for girls who didn't mind it and were okay with exploring their sexual desires openly, I respect those who didn't flaunt it. For those who do flaunt themselves, well I want you to realize that you are responsible indirectly for not realizing that some men are absolutely so stupid that they'd go to jail to just rape a woman. As if you live your entire life just to have sex... wtf...


As a loving husband and soon to be father
With portrayals of women like Miley, I am more afraid than ever for the ones that I love... I was once with my sister and two nephews, and some guy approached my sister while I was on a theme park ride with one of my nephews... The man saw her with a carriage and all and just openly asked her if she would go have sex with him. Craziest part to me is that there were women around who already appeared to dress sexually and my sister was not one of them. Land of the free my ass, we look like the land of lust, gluttony, sloth and ignorance.

Men are getting more aggressive, and the easy women are disgusting and used as well as increasing in number. They have fluids left within them from other men and it's gross to think about. Some men just want to flaunt that they can get who they want. To some men these guys are the MAN for succeeding. Men don't respect their bodies, they had little to no responsibility since the beginning of time with their bodies. It was the men who had to earn or take away a woman's respect because it was and still is the women who go through the pains to bare children and put their lives at risk.

Obviously there are extreme cases, some people like the bondage and submission but for the most part the slavery side of human trafficking is unpleasant to most. With the increasing levels of porn with fantasy situations spreading across the internet like a plague and the never ending amount public media advertising sex, how do we put the blame on just the guys who do wrong? Anyone who has ever had even the slightest sexual experience would agree that once arousal has started it is difficult to stop. Sex and masturbation is probably become so dissatisfying but you are constantly getting sexual cues from all over the place. So do we blame a man who has little to know relationship skills, or blame men for being more sexually aggressive?

I personally don't want to blame them cause I can relate. Some people have more self control than others. To say that people should be more responsible for their actions when there is a never ending drug battle of people trying to lose control is a joke. Miley was the poster girl of disney and an idol to many girls growing up. Saying that she is free to do as she likes is fine but acting upon her desires with a lack a responsibility is another. It's like she is free to give a man an erection, practically virtually jerking them off and then walking away and not expecting those men with various discipline levels to want more. If she did this in private it's one thing, it's her life. but by making it a media spectacle she indirectly added to male aggression towards women and put my wife, and other loved ones in danger.

People are less often going into relationships saying the goal is to someday spend the rest of their lives with someone. More often they either want the company or some intimacy and because they crave the moment, are lonely or just want a fling. Living for the moment as if we may die tomorrow only to wake up and see another day and live with what we've done. The original term for live as if we may die tomorrow was meant to say make your final day count and leave behind a great legacy not oh crap last thing I want to do is kill someone, rape someone, do some crazy life threatening stunts. Quoting Steve Jobs who quoted someone else he didn't really remember, "live each day like it is going to be your last and some day it certainly will be." I know so many people who get upset when their relationships don't last, I blame that fact on everyone living for the moment instead of saying to one another, "if we are doing this we are in this to make it work for keeps." instead of "lets see how things go." I mean what else were they expecting that by holding hands they assume longevity of a relationship?

So what can we actually do about this? People may say i'm just ranting and doing nothing about it myself. Well I am hoping... and just hoping that if my voice is ever heard... This rant can be taken as a rant, but within these words I hope people may find some wisdom they can take into their own lives. I hope that these words are at least a first step to protecting the people that I love and provide them with a brighter future. I hope for everyone's sake we learn that with freedom we can self impose discipline, respect and responsibility to one another instead of just testing our boundries.

-Triscet